Brown Widow

Is Fear Stopping You From Succeeding?

My son was bitten by a poisonous spider this week.

He’s only 5 years old, and since he’s so small we have been to the doctor twice already to have it lanced, cleaned, and tested…

And he is on several antibiotics to stem the infection.

He is going to be fine, and I’m sure you don’t REALLY need to know about my personal problems…

But I wanted to tell you because I what’s happened has been a strong reminder that I have forgotten one of my cardinal rules.

You see, I have been shut down in a TOTAL PANIC by this bite.

All I do is worry…

My stomach has been upset, I haven’t been able to eat…

And talk about tired! All I have done for a couple days now is worry.

Work? Out of the question.

I missed deadlines, I missed calls… It was all I could do to even answer my phone.

And you know what?

It was (and still is) totally irrational… And yet it’s been making me insane for days now.

Why am I so worried?

There’s nothing I can do about it that we aren’t doing already…

It’s totally out of my hands.

This experience has been a great reminder for me of something I promised myself many, many years ago:

Not to ever worry about things that I can’t control.

Of course I love my kids more than life itself, and of course it’s natural as a parent to worry…

But worrying myself to the edge of panic? Unacceptable.

Becoming immobilized by fear of “what might happen” and shutting down?

Shame on me.

So what is it you’re afraid of?

– Losing your job?
– Not being able to provide for your family?
– Snakes? Spiders? Swine flu?

More importantly: Are your fears stopping you from being successful?

Whatever it is that shuts you down, and renders you helpless…

Take a long hard look at that fear and realize that most of it (probably) is irrational.

What you need to do is prepare as best as you can, and then stop worrying about it and go about your life.

It’s out of your control.

Anyways, I just wanted to share some thoughts I have been having about what’s happened to me this week.

Hopefully it helps.